Now that I'm in myfifties..some thoughts...
August 9, 2012well..I've worn saddle oxfords, peddle pushers, hot pants, short shorts, bell bottoms, elephant bells, hip huggers, tye dye shirts, halter tops and bikinis..love beads, hoop earrings, peace symbols and patches on my jeans..earth shoes, jesus sandles and platform shoes ..polyester pants suits and Maxi coats..Mini skirts and blue jean skirts made from pants..now days..I still favor my blue jeans ( bell bottomed no less but they call em boot cut now days) and t-shirts..occasionally a dress or skirt if its got a hippy feel to it.
My hairs been shagged and poodled, straight and long ,teased and poofed or juj (Jacked up to Jesus)...short and mulletted..and now its back to long and has a few gray hairs mingled in for spice..hehehe...
I saw the beatles and the Doors on ed sullivan and now days..I watch the MTV music awards..I saw the first Saturday night live and the last episode of MASH..I watched gilligan finally get off that damn island..and Elvis's come back in black leather and lookin damn sexy...and then I watched as the country morned his death and then claimed it was a hoax.. watched the funeral procession of JFK and read all about Marlyn Monroes death..I watched the monkees and the partridge family and the six million dollar man..(always wondered why he made that noise everytime he ran)
I played Red Rover and dodgeball, red light green light, simon says and tag ...I had the first barbie,which my cousin gave a hair cut.. a hula hoop and an easy bake oven.. was great at marbles and jacks..I passed go and collected 200 dollars and got aggrevated and even built a better mouse trap...I rode bikes and played in the cemetary..waded in the creek and climbed rocks and caught lighting bugs on summer nights.. bought penny candy and pushups for a dime..helped my gran put the green stamps in her books and shopped from the spiegel man that came to the house every week with his truck full of wonderful stuff..
my doctor came to the house when I had pnuemonia and I got my small pox vaccine but didn't end up with that scar on my shoulder..and loved getting the sugar cube with the polio vaccine in it..it made up for the shots..hahaha I had big measles and discovered that putting noxema on them DID NOT HELP.
David Cassidy and Donny Osmond hung on my walls and I carried my transistor radio with me every where..I played 45's and albums on my record player ...Now I pop Jim morrison into the cd player and watch pink floyd on the high def...
I watched a man walk on the moon and then I saw a shuttle explode after take off..I watched the vietnam war and now the war in Irag..
I watched Rock hudson kiss Doris Day and then years later found out he had been gay all along and was dying of aides..a sad way to have to come out of the closet..
Rob and laura , Ozzie and harriet slept in seperate beds... now madonna kisses britney on live tv...
At my grandmas, we had a rotary dial phone with a cord that wouldn't even reach the couch and now we carry a cell phone everywhere we go...
I watched three channels on tv back in the 60's and yes..I watched flipper and now I have 300...and still can't find something worth watching..and the president still takes over the three main channels..hahaha
I skipped school..snuck into bars at 16 and yep..smoked behind the high school gym (and now.. again.. I have to hide behind buildings to smoke)...I smoked a few joints and tried acid and basically found out that I don't need that crap to enjoy life.
I got married and had two kids then got divorced
and got a job and worked at the single parent gig . Thankfully my kids never got on Oprah and came out fairly well adjusted adults..well darn close anyway.
I've been to a rainbow family reunion that made me feel like I had stepped back in time to the 60s and I've made love in a field in a sleeping bag under the stars..had my heart broken more times than I care to think about and broke a couple myself ...I've been to concerts..from Elvis to Garth brooks and I've seen more movies than I care to admit..but the first scary movie I ever saw was the Birds and I remember hiding my head under the covers and freaking out for days if a bird even flew in my general direction..
I've made bad choices and good ones..rash decisions and smart ones..But I wouldn't change any thing and I don't regret my choices...I've lived, laughed (alot..at myself mostly) and loved the best I could...I guess..all in all..its not been a bad 50 years...
Oh and I guess the things I've learned so far...is..
the more things change..the more they stay the same...
Don't go into a relationship thinking you can change someone..remember along with their good points..their faults also play an important part in making them the person you love...and truly..time does change a person..so..be patient..hahaha
Talk to your kids..alot..be honest with them..respect how they feel..even if it seems trivial to you..to them..it is earth shattering and remind them that everyone makes mistakes..the point is that you try and you learn...But Mostly..talk to them..take them seriously and love them..they really do grow up so fast and are adults before you know it..and it is really hard to ground them when that happens..I know..I've tried..hahaha..they ignore me on that..hahaha
let go...when its not working..no matter how hard you have tried, let go..don't hang on to a bad situation whether it be a marrage or job or anything..if its making you unhappy to your very core..let go..gently and with as much dignity as possible but..let go...
Revenge, regret and hanging on to old hurts, anger and painful memories serve no purpose..they just eat away at you and make you bitter and miserable..again..let it go..
and mainly..I've learned that you can't make someone else happy and they can't make you happy..that is something only you can do for yourself..love yourself..faults and all..looks and all..treat others as you wish to be treated and accept no less from them..and If someone can't accept you for who you are then maybe..just maybe they shouldn't be in your life to begin with..This life thing..it really is short and there are no do overs..so do the best you can and remember that we all make mistakes..thats how we learn and grow..Love to your fullest..Laugh your loudest and reach out a hand to someone when you can..it will do more for you than them in the long run...
Oh and I am pretty sure..the hokey pokey is what its all about...
My hairs been shagged and poodled, straight and long ,teased and poofed or juj (Jacked up to Jesus)...short and mulletted..and now its back to long and has a few gray hairs mingled in for spice..hehehe...
I saw the beatles and the Doors on ed sullivan and now days..I watch the MTV music awards..I saw the first Saturday night live and the last episode of MASH..I watched gilligan finally get off that damn island..and Elvis's come back in black leather and lookin damn sexy...and then I watched as the country morned his death and then claimed it was a hoax.. watched the funeral procession of JFK and read all about Marlyn Monroes death..I watched the monkees and the partridge family and the six million dollar man..(always wondered why he made that noise everytime he ran)
I played Red Rover and dodgeball, red light green light, simon says and tag ...I had the first barbie,which my cousin gave a hair cut.. a hula hoop and an easy bake oven.. was great at marbles and jacks..I passed go and collected 200 dollars and got aggrevated and even built a better mouse trap...I rode bikes and played in the cemetary..waded in the creek and climbed rocks and caught lighting bugs on summer nights.. bought penny candy and pushups for a dime..helped my gran put the green stamps in her books and shopped from the spiegel man that came to the house every week with his truck full of wonderful stuff..
my doctor came to the house when I had pnuemonia and I got my small pox vaccine but didn't end up with that scar on my shoulder..and loved getting the sugar cube with the polio vaccine in it..it made up for the shots..hahaha I had big measles and discovered that putting noxema on them DID NOT HELP.
David Cassidy and Donny Osmond hung on my walls and I carried my transistor radio with me every where..I played 45's and albums on my record player ...Now I pop Jim morrison into the cd player and watch pink floyd on the high def...
I watched a man walk on the moon and then I saw a shuttle explode after take off..I watched the vietnam war and now the war in Irag..
I watched Rock hudson kiss Doris Day and then years later found out he had been gay all along and was dying of aides..a sad way to have to come out of the closet..
Rob and laura , Ozzie and harriet slept in seperate beds... now madonna kisses britney on live tv...
At my grandmas, we had a rotary dial phone with a cord that wouldn't even reach the couch and now we carry a cell phone everywhere we go...
I watched three channels on tv back in the 60's and yes..I watched flipper and now I have 300...and still can't find something worth watching..and the president still takes over the three main channels..hahaha
I skipped school..snuck into bars at 16 and yep..smoked behind the high school gym (and now.. again.. I have to hide behind buildings to smoke)...I smoked a few joints and tried acid and basically found out that I don't need that crap to enjoy life.
I got married and had two kids then got divorced
and got a job and worked at the single parent gig . Thankfully my kids never got on Oprah and came out fairly well adjusted adults..well darn close anyway.
I've been to a rainbow family reunion that made me feel like I had stepped back in time to the 60s and I've made love in a field in a sleeping bag under the stars..had my heart broken more times than I care to think about and broke a couple myself ...I've been to concerts..from Elvis to Garth brooks and I've seen more movies than I care to admit..but the first scary movie I ever saw was the Birds and I remember hiding my head under the covers and freaking out for days if a bird even flew in my general direction..
I've made bad choices and good ones..rash decisions and smart ones..But I wouldn't change any thing and I don't regret my choices...I've lived, laughed (alot..at myself mostly) and loved the best I could...I guess..all in all..its not been a bad 50 years...
Oh and I guess the things I've learned so far...is..
the more things change..the more they stay the same...
Don't go into a relationship thinking you can change someone..remember along with their good points..their faults also play an important part in making them the person you love...and truly..time does change a person..so..be patient..hahaha
Talk to your kids..alot..be honest with them..respect how they feel..even if it seems trivial to you..to them..it is earth shattering and remind them that everyone makes mistakes..the point is that you try and you learn...But Mostly..talk to them..take them seriously and love them..they really do grow up so fast and are adults before you know it..and it is really hard to ground them when that happens..I know..I've tried..hahaha..they ignore me on that..hahaha
let go...when its not working..no matter how hard you have tried, let go..don't hang on to a bad situation whether it be a marrage or job or anything..if its making you unhappy to your very core..let go..gently and with as much dignity as possible but..let go...
Revenge, regret and hanging on to old hurts, anger and painful memories serve no purpose..they just eat away at you and make you bitter and miserable..again..let it go..
and mainly..I've learned that you can't make someone else happy and they can't make you happy..that is something only you can do for yourself..love yourself..faults and all..looks and all..treat others as you wish to be treated and accept no less from them..and If someone can't accept you for who you are then maybe..just maybe they shouldn't be in your life to begin with..This life thing..it really is short and there are no do overs..so do the best you can and remember that we all make mistakes..thats how we learn and grow..Love to your fullest..Laugh your loudest and reach out a hand to someone when you can..it will do more for you than them in the long run...
Oh and I am pretty sure..the hokey pokey is what its all about...
Posted by Debbie Jo.
